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Hello Beautiful People,
Have you ever experienced a time where you just felt completely overwhelmed? Maybe a time that tested you on another level?
Here you are, heading out to go have a fun day with the family, when you hear a noise coming from the front of the car. You pull over to discover that the tire has no thread and has started to pull apart.
So you exchange it for the dummy tire in the trunk of your car, and decide to head back home to repair the tire.
When you take your vehicle in to get a new tire, you are told that it needs two new tires that will cost $300. Unexpected expense? To say the least. As they continue working on it, you are told you also need new brakes. Like really!?!
You are feeling emotionally overwhelmed, and start thinking, I just can’t do this. It is too much to handle. I’m feeling overwhelmed. Why is this happening? Why when it rains, it pours?
Life can surely be overwhelming when you least expect it. The events in which you have no control over can send any person into a state of overwhelming emotions.
You are probably thinking to yourself, there is no way I can pay for this. How am I going to afford this along with all my other bills?
Somewhere along the way though, you shift your thinking, your mindset.
You replace the negative thoughts with positive thoughts.
You start to think, it will be okay, it will all work itself out. You replace what you can’t do with what you can do.
I will be able to pay for this without it affecting my other bills.
I will have the new tires and new brakes I need that will keep me and my family safe when we travel.
The owner of the tire company helps you out by giving you a discount on the tires and works out a plan where you are able to pay for the brakes on your next payday. The next day, you receive an unexpected check in the mail. This covers the cost of the tires.
You are asking yourself, how did this all work out?
Well, in this scenario, it was the power of a positive mindset. A scenario that was very much real. A scenario that was my own.
Now you may not relate completely, as this event is very specific, but I am sure you can relate in a way that provides a situation in which you’ve had similar negative thoughts.
Where you have questioned the intentions of the universe. As if it was against you.
These negative thoughts though, if given the power, by thinking them over and over, can actually keep you stuck in a dark place.
In this situation, I started off by allowing one bad thing to overshadow all the good things about that day.
Instead of giving into the negative spiral of thinking, I chose to replace the negative thoughts with realistic statements that helped me take positive action.
This included talking to the owner about my situation hoping he would understand. Which in fact he did understand. And though we did not do what we set out to do that day as a family, we finished it on a positive note, spending it with each other, and enjoying our time together.
When life happens, it can be hard to shift your mindset from the negative thoughts that make you want to blame yourself, look for the bad news, make unhappy guessing about the future, or have exaggerated negative thoughts that distort the reality of the situation, creating all sorts of problems.
By shifting your mindset, you replace the negative thought with a positive thought.
Ask yourself, what you would say to a friend who had this problem?
These thoughts are not reality when they come in, so the next step is to stop giving them the attention.
You may ask, How do we do this? Constructive thinking, instead of reacting to events, you respond to them in a way that will support growth and development.
I applied constructive thinking by finding the solution. Not allowing the event to completely incapacitate my thought process of how to deal with what just hit me. I was not financially prepared to take such a hit, but in choosing how to react, I had control over the situation. Rather than feeling as if it had the power and was in control over me.
This is a process that is not immediately learned, but with practice and development, becomes second nature.
In the end, you need to remind yourself that you may not be in control of the event that took place, but you are the one in control of how you allow it to affect you. You are in control of your emotions, and by catching yourself when you begin to think negatively, and apply it in a positive and helpful way, you are in power of it.
I hope this blog post has helped, and if you have questions or need further clarification, please leave a comment below. I am happy to help.
P.S. If you are interested in furthering your constructive thinking, be sure to check out Law of Attraction and The Power of Positive Thinking. Also, when overcoming negative thoughts, consider looking into Yoga, as it really does have a way of quieting the mind and force you to listen to your body.